As men, it is built in our DNA to always want to fix things. We see something that is broken and we immediately want to fix it. We see a problem and we want to solve it. 99.9% of the time when she opens up to you about something, she doesn’t want you to fix, she just wants you to listen.
You ladies can relate. But instead of things, you do this to men. You start dating a someone, and he might not have all the qualities you’re looking for in a guy, but you say to yourself “I can fix him.” You see him as a project. You see him as a challenge. “Everyone else failed to fix him, but they aren’t me.” Challenge accepted.
We tend to treat people the same way. We see them as our projects. They might have an addiction. We say “We’ll fix them.” They might be living a lifestyle we don’t agree with. We think “We can change them.”
Unfortunately we have had this train of thought for a while now and it doesn’t work. If anything we tend to make things worse. We end up driving people away. They become turned off to us.
The problem with this thinking is that it is impossible for us to fix people. People aren’t projects. People are people. Only Jesus can fix them. Change is orchestrated from the inside out. Not the outside in.
We were never called to fix people. We are called to love them. We aren’t called to fix what they are doing. We are called to accept them for who they are. I believe if we would just do those two things, we will see the change in our world that we are wanting to see.