Before I begin this post I want to preface it by saying that I’m not a parent. I have no experience or know what it is like to be a parent. I believe that being a parent is one of, if not the hardest, jobs anyone could have. Being a parent is an immensely great responsibility.
With that said, recently there has been an epidemic going around of parents publicly shaming their children on various social media outlets. Thousands of videos on Facebook, Twitter, and YouTube have received millions upon millions of views of parents making an example of their children. From shaving their child’s head, to public humiliation, to verbally embarrassing them these are only a few methods these parents have taken to discipline their children.
Now don’t get me wrong I believe in disciplining your children in order to teach them a lesson when they do something wrong, and believe me my parents disciplined me, but I believe this is a private matter between you and your children not a public display for the world to see. Public shaming is not parenting it’s bullying. What kind of message are you trying to teach your children by condemning them for all the world to see? What sort of lesson are they learning from publicly standing in their shame?
Like I said I’m not a parent, but I have been a son to two amazing earthly parents and one gracious heavenly Father for about 32 years now. My parents never embarrassed me intentionally in public. They might have embarrassed me a few times unintentionally by hugging and kissing me in front of my friends, but I think all parents have their moments. When they disciplined me they did it in private behind closed doors so that I was taught a lesson of love for me and not given a message for shame of me.
Paul the apostle, who was publicly shamed and did some shameful things in his life he wasn’t proud of, penned these words “Therefore there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.” (Romans 8:1) Jesus took our walk of shame for us, when He carried the cross, so that we wouldn’t have to live in shame. Jesus was publicly humiliated so we wouldn’t have to be. There is no shame in the name of Jesus.
I believe some of you reading this are walking in a life of shame. Maybe it’s because of something someone did to you. Maybe it was a parent. Maybe it was a friend. Maybe it’s because of something you have done. Don’t let your past imprison the potential of your future. Don’t allow your history to destroy your destiny.
You have a heavenly Father who loves you and wants the best for you. His approval of you is not based upon what has been done to you or what you have done, but is solely based upon who you are. You are a child of the King. You are blessed and highly favored. You are the head and not the tail. You are above and not beneath. When you realize those two things, who you are and whose you are, you no longer walk in the shame of defeat but you sit in the seat of victory.